June 1st, 2013
Here's a consultation I recently performed for a man who was experiencing healing problems with his new frenum piercing:
I'd like your input on a piercing. I got a 8g frenum piercing done 3 weeks ago by a fairly reputable piercer. I had some personal references and saw some of her work.
In any event, I have been having some healing problems. While the marking was spot on, once the piercing was done it was slightly crooked. That wasn't much of an issue for me, but the bigger issue was that one side (the exit side) appears to have been done shallow.
Looking at the piercing, the side that is healing fine you cannot see an outline of the piercing, but on the "bad" side it seems like the bar passes close to the surface for the last 1/8 inch or so before it exits. From the first day it was pierced you could see an outline of the bar (as if about a 2-3mm tube of skin was surrounding the bar just before it exited), and the skin has since the day it was pierced felt taut there. A few days later it was raw around the outside of that side while rest of the piercing felt fine.
That side has in the past few days taken to crusting and emitting a lot of milky goo when I give it salt soaks (2x daily since I got the piercing). It also has started to feel a little prickly (a pinching sensation every now and then).
The little red area by the silver ball end is the skin area that has always felt taut/raw. I have also tried to show how the area behind/around the "bad" side looks.
Besides the regular see salt regimen, I have tried vitamin E and switching to a larger ball (the blue one) on the opposite end of the bar in the hopes of taking pressure off of the irritated area.
May 31st, 2013
I performed a consultation for a woman who wanted to know if her anatomy was suitable for Horizontal Clitoral Hood (HCH) and Triangle Piercings.
I have a vertical clit hood piercing and I love it sooo much I want more! I have a good piercer that I really love but he's sooo far away. Thank you sooo much for doing consultations online! I really, really want to get a triangle. Or maybe a horizontal? I hope my pictures are good enough. I'm glad I'll have a better idea of what I can get before I go all the way out to see my piercer.
You don't really appear to have any space for an HCH piercing above your VCH, which is where it would normally go, so I don't think you're a candidate for that particular piercing. And, by the way, your VCH appears to be properly placed and the jewelry is a suitable fit.
May 27th, 2013
I received a message from a woman who wondered if her new triangle piercing was making it harder for her to achieve orgasm:
Hi Elayne! I hope you're well. I have an orgasm question and I don't know who to ask. I had my VCH done at the end of January. Then I had the triangle done a month ago. It seems since then I have had a harder time coming to orgasm. I haven't lost sensation because I feel like I am so close the entire time I masturbate. It feels great. Sometimes I just can't get over that ledge to the big O. For example I couldn't tonight and was frustrating because I was right there. But I had done it the previous 3 nights within 10-30 mins. Since its only been a month on the triangle do you think there is still some swelling and healing going on? I don't know anyone else who has one to ask. Any insight you can give I would be so so grateful. Thank you!!
Thanks for your message. Your piercing is still quite new and still in the healing stages. During that time, you can expect the healing process to be ongoing, and until the piercing is fully healed and settled, you won't really know how it will ultimately "perform" for you.
Did you go to one of the piercers on my referrals list, which is on this page of my website: http://piercingbible.com/piercer-referrals ?
If not, you may want to have me do a consultation to determine if your piercing is placed properly for your anatomy and for me to see if you're wearing appropriate jewelry.
Please visit this page for information on booking a consultation with me:
She wrote back and sent pictures:
May 26th, 2013
I received a message from a woman who was concerned about the jewelry in her new VCH piercing:
Hi, yesterday I went and had my VCH piercing and I am a little concerned that the jewellery is too short. The bottom ball is not visible and is hiding quite deeply inside my hood which in turn is pushing the top of the bar upwards (this is a little uncomfortable). I don't think it's a shallow piercing but I'm just wondering if I can change this myself (I have been pierced with quite a small straight bar). I am able to send you some pics if that will help? Thank you.
Thanks for your message. I can tell you without seeing you that if the jewelry is too tight you MUST get it changed out ASAP!
Unless you are quite familiar with body jewelry and have access to sterile equipment including an insertion taper, then I would suggest you go to a professional to have it changed. However, based on your problem, I'm not sure if you should trust the piercer who put in improperly sized jewelry?
All of my piercer referrals are posted on this page of my website: http://piercingbible.com/piercer-referrals
If I haven't personally worked with or trained any piercers in your area, you can check the website for a member of the Association of Professional Piercers who is local to you: http://www.safepiercing.org
May 21st, 2013
I received a message from a man who had questions about optimal placement and healing issues with upper frenums:
Hi. I was wondering if top frenums are frequent for migration and rejection. I have had mine pierced three times and they keep migrating out. The first two times were at 14g and this last time was at 10g. I started with 3 top frenums at 10g but after 2 months I lost one and a few weeks later another one. I'm thinking that the 10g rejection was caused by my switch of jewelry after 2 months of getting them redone. My idea for the frenums is to wear large diameter CBRs in the frenums like c-rings. I wanted to try the jewelry out and wore it for a few weeks.
When I stretched my bottom frenums (which have given me no problems) and the last top frenum to 8g, my piercer has advised not to wear that jewelry for long term wear as they would cause pressure and migration. She was noticing the signs on the 10g CBRs I was wearing at the time of the stretch. Do you think it would be worth trying a fourth time on one of my top frenums that is near the middle of my shaft length or should I just be happy with the bottom ones?
Upper frenums can be harder to heal for many men. There tends to be less pliable tissue on the top and that seems to lead to complications like migration and rejection.
It is possible 12 gauge would be a better starting size. It is large enough to be sufficiently sturdy, but will not cause as much pressure against the tissue as a 10 ga (especially if you don't have a lot of excess skin).
Also how much tissue was pierced between the entry and exit during the initial piercings? Do you have any photos of the piercings when they were new?
May 21st, 2013
I received a message from a couple who had questions about genital piercings:
My wife would like to get a VCH piercing and we went to one local piercer in Cape Coral, FL and he said he couldn't do it. We had heard it was a good reputable place but it seems like he was nervous or uncomfortable because he didn't examine very long at all, more like a quick look and said sorry. If I sent you a picture would you be able to tell if you would be able to do it? I fly with an airline and we can travel to where ever you would be to have it done. Also, I would like to get a piercing and not sure as to whether I want a PA or or apadravya or dydoe...not concerned so much for my increased sensation but what typically feels better or more enhanced sensation on the woman during intercourse. Any suggestions? Thank you for your help.
I'll be happy to assist you as best I can from this distance.
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If your wife wishes to have a consultation with me for your anatomy in relation to piercing suitability, please visit this page for information: http://piercingbible.com/consultations#AnatomyConsult
May 17th, 2013
Here's a recent consultation I performed for a couple who were considering a Vertical Clit Hood piercing, and then had jewelry issues after the woman was pierced:
My wife had scheduled an appointment for a VCH piercing next week with a piercer in Florida. I am a registered nurse and feel comfortable driving there for this procedure after doing a good bit of research, however, after reading many blogs on your site i have started worrying about surface piercings and worse complications. Should i worry about these things? I hope you will be able to put my mind at ease.
If you visit my referrals page: http://piercingbible.com/piercer-referrals you will find the few handfuls of piercers I refer to worldwide. You are wise to consider the skill of the piercer as a VCH piercing is one of the piercings most often botched by inexperienced or poorly trained piercers.
He wrote back:
Thank you for the reply. Also, is there any truth to gradual desensitization over time after the vch placement due to constant contact?
Here's an excerpt from The Piercing Bible that adresses your question:
If you wish to become a more well-educated consumer, I suggest you get my book, The Piercing Bible--The Definitive Guide to Safe Body Piercing.
May 17th, 2013
I received a message from a person seeking information about a (Back of the Neck) Surface Piercing:
I want to get a nape piercing but everyone tells me that I can't because surface piercings tend to reject and that I'll regret it. What jewelry is best to use for the piercing and what can I do to help it not reject?
It is true that surface piercings have a higher rejection rate than "traditional" body piercings. And it is very important that the tissue is pliable/pinchable. If your skin in that area is really tight and dense, then piercing is not suggested. In addition to optimal placement for your anatomy, and appropriate jewelry, assiduous aftercare is also crucial. They are explained here: http://piercingbible.com/piercing-care
To facilitate healing, you should do saline soaks: http://piercingbible.com/saline-soaks
And also you can use emu oil to soothe and help healing (if you don't object to using an animal product): http://piercingbible.com/emu-oil
Here's an excerpt from my book, The Piercing Bible, about surface piercings: