June 11th, 2013
I received a message from a man who had questions about the effects of nipple piercing on breasts with Gynecomastia:
Hey Elayne, my name is L.
I'm a piercer and tattoo apprentice. First I want you to know that you and your book are astoundingly impressive. Your resume alone is quite intimidating. I thought I was hot shit when I was one of the first people I knew to rock a gauged earing, but to work at the first piercing shop, and to see these piercings and jewelry to come to fruition.. Just wow.
I also understand that there must of been some Struggles being a pioneer. Just wanted you to know how much I respect you.
So I wanted to get in touch with you about a VERY important question to me. I have gynocomastia or however you spell it. Its not easy to talk about- I have puffy nipples, were talking half spheres. Its embarassing and humiliating with a shirt on, let alone no shirt. I've tried, believe me, to get over it. I'm not sure if my torso has ever been hit by direct sunlight. I have to be with a significant other an incredible amount of time to take my shirt off.
I was reading your section of the nipple piercings. first off I don't have mine done. I'm a little confused because on page 128 you say the piercing can cause the nipple to stay erect (which for me would KEEP THEM SHRUNK!!!!! :)) but on page 131 you speak of post nipple development and mention swelling. I've looked into plastic surgery and its almost forever out of my price range as well as a strong chance it will come back.
My question is, could it keep my nipples hard which would be shrunk for me, and is there a way to try and achieve that or is it a probability. I just wanna be comfortable in my own Skin. Thank you in advanced soo much for replying and even more for your contributions to the world.
June 6th, 2013
I received a message from a man who abandoned his new Prince Albert (PA) piercing due to symptoms of metal reaction and wanted to get repierced:
Hi Ms Elayne Angel,
I am sorry to bother you but I have a piercing question and I am getting such a wide variety of answers; I thought I'd go to the source.
I had a PA and had a bad metal reaction and had to remove it after 5 1/2 weeks. I plan to get it redone but was wondering what steps to take to get ready for the re-piercing and how long I should wait.
The answers have varied from 2 weeks to 3-4 months.
I was just wanting to clear up the confusion.
Thank you for your time and I appreciate all you have contributed to the art of body modification. I have your book and it is a great book.
By chance are you planning any trips to the Charlotte NC area anytime soon?
Thanks in advance,
Thanks for the positive feedback about my book; I really appreciate it and I'm glad to hear your opinion about it.
Well, the "confusion" can be attributed to the fact that it really depends on your body and how quickly you recover from the effects of the first piercing and the reaction you experienced. I have a number of questions for you and it is important to find out exactly what went wrong the first time before having the piercing redone. When you repierce, you must do something different or you can expect the same problematic results.
June 4th, 2013
I received a message from a woman who was worried about getting a genital piercing from an inexperienced piercer:
I went to my piercer about getting a hch in addition to my vch. Unfortunately, I can't due to a vessel, but she said that she could do a triangle. I'm a little Concerned because I'm fairly small down there (she had to modify my vch because of it) and she's never done one before. She knows how and showed me where it would be placed and took her time showing and explaining how it would be done. Everything seemed about right with how you explained it, but once again she's never done it. I trust her, but I know the piercer should be experienced.. But how would she get experience if she doesn't get te chance? I just need your advice on this, is there anything I need to make sure of? The only thing is that we decided to use a ring instead of the curved barbell (because I absolutely abhor the standard jewelry for the triangle, it just looks like a septum piercing for my vagina... Which isn't what I'm going for)
If it were my vulva, especially if I were small built (meaning passing a needle through the wrong part could do debilitating damage), I most definitely would NOT let her do it. Even experienced piercers learn by networking and sharing with other piercers. She should have a colleague who is experienced at triangle piercings walk her through it on a few IDEAL clients first--not someone who is small built. That would be something only for a true expert to do, not a first-timer!
June 1st, 2013
Here's a consultation I recently performed for a man who was experiencing healing problems with his new frenum piercing:
I'd like your input on a piercing. I got a 8g frenum piercing done 3 weeks ago by a fairly reputable piercer. I had some personal references and saw some of her work.
In any event, I have been having some healing problems. While the marking was spot on, once the piercing was done it was slightly crooked. That wasn't much of an issue for me, but the bigger issue was that one side (the exit side) appears to have been done shallow.
Looking at the piercing, the side that is healing fine you cannot see an outline of the piercing, but on the "bad" side it seems like the bar passes close to the surface for the last 1/8 inch or so before it exits. From the first day it was pierced you could see an outline of the bar (as if about a 2-3mm tube of skin was surrounding the bar just before it exited), and the skin has since the day it was pierced felt taut there. A few days later it was raw around the outside of that side while rest of the piercing felt fine.
That side has in the past few days taken to crusting and emitting a lot of milky goo when I give it salt soaks (2x daily since I got the piercing). It also has started to feel a little prickly (a pinching sensation every now and then).
The little red area by the silver ball end is the skin area that has always felt taut/raw. I have also tried to show how the area behind/around the "bad" side looks.
Besides the regular see salt regimen, I have tried vitamin E and switching to a larger ball (the blue one) on the opposite end of the bar in the hopes of taking pressure off of the irritated area.
May 31st, 2013
I performed a consultation for a woman who wanted to know if her anatomy was suitable for Horizontal Clitoral Hood (HCH) and Triangle Piercings.
I have a vertical clit hood piercing and I love it sooo much I want more! I have a good piercer that I really love but he's sooo far away. Thank you sooo much for doing consultations online! I really, really want to get a triangle. Or maybe a horizontal? I hope my pictures are good enough. I'm glad I'll have a better idea of what I can get before I go all the way out to see my piercer.
You don't really appear to have any space for an HCH piercing above your VCH, which is where it would normally go, so I don't think you're a candidate for that particular piercing. And, by the way, your VCH appears to be properly placed and the jewelry is a suitable fit.
May 27th, 2013
I received a message from a woman who wondered if her new triangle piercing was making it harder for her to achieve orgasm:
Hi Elayne! I hope you're well. I have an orgasm question and I don't know who to ask. I had my VCH done at the end of January. Then I had the triangle done a month ago. It seems since then I have had a harder time coming to orgasm. I haven't lost sensation because I feel like I am so close the entire time I masturbate. It feels great. Sometimes I just can't get over that ledge to the big O. For example I couldn't tonight and was frustrating because I was right there. But I had done it the previous 3 nights within 10-30 mins. Since its only been a month on the triangle do you think there is still some swelling and healing going on? I don't know anyone else who has one to ask. Any insight you can give I would be so so grateful. Thank you!!
Thanks for your message. Your piercing is still quite new and still in the healing stages. During that time, you can expect the healing process to be ongoing, and until the piercing is fully healed and settled, you won't really know how it will ultimately "perform" for you.
Did you go to one of the piercers on my referrals list, which is on this page of my website: http://piercingbible.com/piercer-referrals ?
If not, you may want to have me do a consultation to determine if your piercing is placed properly for your anatomy and for me to see if you're wearing appropriate jewelry.
Please visit this page for information on booking a consultation with me:
She wrote back and sent pictures:
May 26th, 2013
I received a message from a woman who was concerned about the jewelry in her new VCH piercing:
Hi, yesterday I went and had my VCH piercing and I am a little concerned that the jewellery is too short. The bottom ball is not visible and is hiding quite deeply inside my hood which in turn is pushing the top of the bar upwards (this is a little uncomfortable). I don't think it's a shallow piercing but I'm just wondering if I can change this myself (I have been pierced with quite a small straight bar). I am able to send you some pics if that will help? Thank you.
Thanks for your message. I can tell you without seeing you that if the jewelry is too tight you MUST get it changed out ASAP!
Unless you are quite familiar with body jewelry and have access to sterile equipment including an insertion taper, then I would suggest you go to a professional to have it changed. However, based on your problem, I'm not sure if you should trust the piercer who put in improperly sized jewelry?
All of my piercer referrals are posted on this page of my website: http://piercingbible.com/piercer-referrals
If I haven't personally worked with or trained any piercers in your area, you can check the website for a member of the Association of Professional Piercers who is local to you: http://www.safepiercing.org
May 21st, 2013
I received a message from a man who had questions about optimal placement and healing issues with upper frenums:
Hi. I was wondering if top frenums are frequent for migration and rejection. I have had mine pierced three times and they keep migrating out. The first two times were at 14g and this last time was at 10g. I started with 3 top frenums at 10g but after 2 months I lost one and a few weeks later another one. I'm thinking that the 10g rejection was caused by my switch of jewelry after 2 months of getting them redone. My idea for the frenums is to wear large diameter CBRs in the frenums like c-rings. I wanted to try the jewelry out and wore it for a few weeks.
When I stretched my bottom frenums (which have given me no problems) and the last top frenum to 8g, my piercer has advised not to wear that jewelry for long term wear as they would cause pressure and migration. She was noticing the signs on the 10g CBRs I was wearing at the time of the stretch. Do you think it would be worth trying a fourth time on one of my top frenums that is near the middle of my shaft length or should I just be happy with the bottom ones?
Upper frenums can be harder to heal for many men. There tends to be less pliable tissue on the top and that seems to lead to complications like migration and rejection.
It is possible 12 gauge would be a better starting size. It is large enough to be sufficiently sturdy, but will not cause as much pressure against the tissue as a 10 ga (especially if you don't have a lot of excess skin).
Also how much tissue was pierced between the entry and exit during the initial piercings? Do you have any photos of the piercings when they were new?