August 4th, 2012
I received an interesting message from a woman who is interested in getting a triangle piercing, but she has not had penetrative sex yet (and may never have had an orgasm):
I have been thinking about getting a triangle piercing for about 3 months now. I have trouble (or perhaps have never, am not super clear on this point) reaching orgasm and I think that this would help. From the information you gave on your site, I think that I am anatomically suited for it (yay). A friend implied that since I have not ever actually had penetrative sex, I should wait and "see if that makes a difference" (I am in my mid-twenties and attracted to men). In your professional opinion, do you think this piercing would make a difference? And do you think I should wait until after I have penetrative sex (that could be a while).
This is a very personal decision that I can't make for you. Though I can most certainly encourage you to wait until you're able to get to a piercer who is highly qualified, meaning someone I recommend, or me personally.
I can say (as a sexually savvy mature woman in my 50s) that you won't be fully versed on what you enjoy sexually until you get more experience. So you wouldn't be able to know, for example, how the piercing has enhanced sex, until you've had it.
August 4th, 2012
I got a message from a woman who was having some problems with her VCH piercing (which I did not perform for her--though this particular healing problem can crop up even when everything is done properly).
Hi Elayne, I'm having issues with my VCH piercing. It began after being agitated after sex (it seemed to be healing fine at the time). I noticed it stung sometimes when I sat down, sometimes when I walked. Upon closer examination, I noticed something that looks like an extra bit of skin under the top ball. I paid extra attention to it during cleaning, and noticed there was a bit of (off-white) discharge. I started doing soaks, the discharge went away, it stopped stinging, but the extra skin didn't go away. I did that for about 1.5 weeks.
This morning, I woke up and the discharge came back and it slightly stings again. I just did a soak... But I'm not sure what else to do.
In reading your book, I think it may be a keloid, but I'm not sure. Maybe an abscess (but I don't feel any hard localized mass). If it is a keloid, should it just be taken out? How can I be sure there's no infection still inside the piercing?
August 3rd, 2012
I received a lot of questions about Prince Albert piercings from a man who was interested in getting one. Below is our correspondence:
Hi Elayne...Saw you were going to be in Philly and I missed you at Infinite (I live in Conn.). I'm what you might call an "older guy (over 50) and have been putting off getting a PA for years. Well, I'm ready but I want a seasoned pro like yourself. Who might you recommend? I know there are no safe piercing.org recommended in Conn., and I'll be back in my home town of Philly in late Aug. Anyone in particular at infinite you'd recommend for a PA? Thanks much!
Sorry I missed you in Philly last month; I would have loved to pierce you. Yes, I do have a referral at Infinite, and his name is Kellan. You'll be in good hands with him. All of my referrals information is on this page of my site:
Let me know how it goes, and if you do see someone I recommend, be sure to send my warmest regards.
August 2nd, 2012
I receieved a message from a woman who got a VCH piercing but she was concerned about the placement:
I just got my vch pierced two weeks ago...I'm afraid its too shallow and I can see the bar a little thru the skin. The piercer did use a receiving tube and said she used as much skin as possible ..and even performed the q tip test. In your opinion, should I take it out or is it ok.
If it is shallow do I have to take it out or is this something that I can manage? Will it migrate easier like it is?
From this view it looks rather shallow/close to the edge of your hood. But if it is placed at the apex (deepest point underneath) then it wouldn't necessarily be able to be done much further from the edge. Then there's the question of whether you were actually a suitable candidate to begin with.
July 30th, 2012
I received a message from a woman who wanted to know if her VCH was correctly placed, along with some photos:
For comfort and ease of healing, I would have suggested you wear a bar rather than a ring. You are built with what I call a "hill" meaning your hood sticks out beyond your outer labia. This is as opposed to the build I refer to as a "valley" wherein the hood is recessed, and lower than the outer labia.
So that means your ring protrudes quite a distance from your body. This can impact healing through excess trauma, which can cause discomfort, pain, delayed healing, scar tissue, and/or migration.
You may have some swelling, which can make it hard to say for sure, but it looks as though it might be a little off toward the right side of your hood. I'd give it a few weeks to be sure after swelling comes down.
The part I can't see in these images is the most important part: where the ring comes through underneath. Due to tenderness, you may need to wait a few days or longer before getting a peek from the underside.
July 27th, 2012
I received a message from a piercee in Italy who was concerned about her piercing:
I'm Italian and I've just ordered your book because by exploring your website I've understood that maybe you're one of the best piercers in the world.
Last week I got my first genital piercing, a "Nefertiti", but it is so short that it really looks like a VCH. Now I wear a 14 gauge curved bar (1.18’’ long) and after the healing time I really wanted to do a Triangle piercing, but I’ve contacted two different experts(both Italian professional piercers) and one of them thinks that I’ve a proper shape, whereas the other one says that it would be dangerous for me to make such a piercing.
My vaginal shape seems an apricot, but the upper side of my hood comes a little bit out from the outer labias. If you want I can send you a photo of it so that you can judge if you think I’ve the right shape to do this piercing or not and you can say how do you think my Nefertiti is made.
I’m really concerned about it and I hope you will help me!
Many thanks, R.
You appear to be somewhat small built for a triangle piercing. I need to see the other photos as shown and explained on this page: http://piercingbible.com/female-genital-piercings#Photo to properly evaluate you for a triangle.
July 21st, 2012
So, here it is, the botched genital piercing of the day by Mystic Piercing In Crofton, Maryland. The unlucky woman who received it wrote to me:
Hey I see it's probably a centimeter too high from the hood apex (that is if I understood the location properly) I'm just wondering if it looks ok... And safely done. It's 2 day old so It is still a hoop rather than the bars I've seen on your site. Thank you very much for letting me know, of course my best friend and my fiancé Dont know how it is supposed to be, I hope to hear from you soon! Thanks,
No, sorry, you have a hood surface piercing, not a VCH piercing. What you're referring to as the "apex" is actually the edge of your hood. The apex is up underneath your hood, at the deepest natrual part of the little "one-ended tunnel."
July 19th, 2012
I received a message from a woman I pierced and she wanted to know if it was normal that her jewelry often leaned to one side of her hood or the other. She sent photos. My comments are below.
This piercing looks great and these photos do a perfect job of illustrating a common phenomenon: the propensity for VCH jewelry to rest to one side or the other (depending on build and tissue tightness or thickness). Many hoods have very fine (thin) skin and are very pliable or malleable.
She described the tendency for the jewelry to rest over to her left, as in the second image. In this particular case, I noted her asymmetry, which likely contributes to this issue. In the image with the jewelry centered, I can see that the left side of her hood has a kind of "ridge" or "hill," where the right side has a sort of a "valley." It would make sense that the side with more tissue could be heavier, resulting in the tendency for the jewelry to favor that side.