November 8th, 2008
I am sorry to bother you again, but I ended up getting the triangle piercing and now have a situation on my hand that I do not know how to deal with. I have a feeling that the piercer placed it a tad too low. It looks fine ( at least to my untrained eye ) but I suspect that it is slightly under the clitoris rather than directly behind it. It is probably right on the border of where the clitoris ends and though I am sure it reached some nerves I do not think it hits the holy grail. When I press on the clitoris I do not feel stimulation behind it like the way you are supposed to. I do not think it sits in the optimum place. Then again, it's only been a few days. Should I go to the piercer and ask her to redo it? Should I wait till it heals fully before going back? I am afraid she will forget me if I wait that long. Plus, I do not want to lose time since I will have to get it repierced and wait yet again for it to heal. Will getting a larger ring help? Am I supposed to pay the salon again? Is there any way that one could tell for sure if it's in the right place just by looking or is it the sort of thing that only the wearer can feel? I would really appreciate any advice that you could give me on the matter because I am at a loss and getting this piercing meant the world to me. Thank you so much for your attention. T.Hi T., If you can send me some clear, close-up photos of the piercing and I'll do what I can to see if it appears properly placed. If it is only marginally low, then a larger piece of jewelry may do more for you--it is hard to say for sure. If it is not positioned where it should be, then you should have the jewelry removed as soon as possible to close the hole. You can return to your piercer to take the jewelry out and discuss the possibilities about repiercing. If you have a visible vein where the piercing should go (for example) then moving it may not be safe.
November 7th, 2008
I have a friend who is interested in a Princess Albertina but has a few questions that I am unable to answer - mainly, comfort factor with regards to sex and cycling. She is also concerned about the comfort factor with regards to her male partner. Also, the urethral sensitivity ... although she has expressed an interest in sounding. Would you advise experimenting with sounding before committing to this piercing?I'll be honest--I don't do Princess Albertina piercings. As a woman with a history of bladder infections and a knowledge of the anatomy (and how short the female urethra is, so close to the bladder), they just never seemed like a good idea. (Male anatomy is considerably different and a PA piercing is not at all likely to cause a bladder infection due to the greater distance from the tip of the urethra to the bladder.) Due to the relatively internal placement of the Princess Albertina, I'd imagine that cycling would not be problematic once initial healing has taken place. My educated guess is that some women would find the piercing enjoyable, and others would not prefer that form of stimulation--just like any other genital piercing. I'm certain, however, that it would be reasonable to experiment with some urethral play with sounds prior to committing to this piercing. She should see if she really does enjoy stimulation to her urethra prior to getting pierced. I would refer you to Jim Weber of Infinite Body Piercing for more information, as I know he has performed them. president at safepiercing dot org Sorry I can't be of more help with this one! Elayne
November 3rd, 2008
Hi, my name is Jake. I pierce at a shop in North Everett, Washington. I must say, every time we get a Pain magazine the first thing i do is flip right to your article and get my learn on. Yesterday, I went to hang out with a good friend of mine, Troy Amundson, he said I should shoot you an email. Sorry, if I am bothering you or if there is a better way to get a hold of you, please let me know. I just had one small question. I pierce right handed, and as a piercer I have been growing a lot (especially with the help of Troy), I realize, its time for me to learn to pierce left handed, so I can approach some piercings in a better manner. Troy said that he had practiced on leather, I've done that, I was just wondering if maybe you had any other suggestions to help maybe even build hand control or strength. Thank you soo much for your time and really its an honor just emailing you. Again, thank you. Jake Hi Jake, It is no trouble at all to reply. Thanks very much for the positive feedback--I hope that you find my articles to be helpful. It is better to reach me on my email, which I check much more frequently: [email protected] (but please respond to my spam filter from spamarrest, or your mail won't get to me). Anyway, as far as piercing goes, I'm a left handed piercer and do all of my piercings with the needle in my left hand. I do not believe that this has hampered my skills. Sometimes it takes a little adjustment of my position and/or the client's position, but it seems to work just fine. Some people are more ambidextrous than others, and if it seems like it wouldn't be hard to build your skill with your non-dominant hand, then it is simply a matter of practice. Working on leather or thick fabric can be helpful before you progress to the paying public.
November 2nd, 2008
Well, the illustrations for the book are done, and it was quite a journey. My illustrator/artiste extraordinaire is Jennifer Klapecki, and we had the good fortune to be introduced by a mutual friend. She did a sample illustration and the publishers and I were duly impressed and she got the job. There were 23 illustrations and we had just a few short weeks to get them all done. I really have to commend Jennifer on her dedication, because this job totally ate her life during the time we were working together. I'd send her photographs of piercings with written instructions about the angle for the image, jewelry styles and sizes, and other details. Sometimes I sent passages from the book that describe the piercing placements, too. She'd draw up a draft, scan it, and email it to me. I'd sometimes print it and use white out and pencils to show her the necessary edits, and then I'd scan and email the draft back to her. Sometimes I would write out instructions and other times I'd call her on the phone (from Mexico to the US via Skype--thank goodness for Skype!). Some of the illustrations went back and forth literally dozens of times! It was a very intense job for both of us, because the deadline was so tight. Jennifer was amazingly patient with me and so willing to do whatever it took to make the illustrations perfect. I think we made a great team and I'm thrilled with how they turned out.
October 27th, 2008
Yet another botched piercing causes pain and suffering:
Hi there. I am hoping you can help me. I had a what was supposed to be a vertical hood piercing in September. As I was browsing your website today I realized mine may have been done incorrectly, or I was not given the piercing I asked for. My piercing not only includes my hood but also the top skin where my inner labia meets. Is this correct? Also you say this piercing shouldn't cause much pain, but I've gotta say childbirth was more pleasurable!!!! Did this guy totally screw me up? I can send a pic if necessary. Thanks for your time and hopefully your help............ JulieHi Julie, Oh goodness! I'm so sorry to hear about your piercing. Yes, please do send me a photo--I'd like to evaluate it for you. It certainly sounds like you didn't get the piercing you wanted. What you describe sounds like maybe it is an Isabella piercing? I don't actually do those, and if it isn't what you asked for they certainly shouldn't have given you one! A VCH should just pass through the very thin skin of the hood that covers the clitoris. Does it seem to be healing? Is it still very painful? Please send a photo at your earliest convenience and I'll let you know what I think. If you aren't happy with the placement, then you should take it out and let it heal. (Though I am curious to get a look at what was done to you.) Sincerely, Angel
October 25th, 2008
I went ahead and got pierced last week (VCH), and it is doing pretty well. I just have a couple more questions for you. I am still researching stuff on the vch and there was one place that said 16 gauge is to small for a genital piercing, and that you aren't suppose to have a hoop in when you heal... Well the ring I have is 16 gauge. Is that a problem? If so can you advise me on a gauge size and jewelry type? ThanksI use 14 gauge as a minimum, because the 16 really is on the thin side. But, if it that is the size you have in, and the piercing is properly placed and heals well, you can easily have it stretched up later. You should wait until you have been healed for a month or two before stretching. If you begin to have healing problems such as irritation, tearing, or migration, then you should have your ring swapped out for a bar as soon as possible. Always have a professional do any jewelry change that becomes necessary during a healing period. I use a ring only when a woman is built with a "valley"-- a recessed hood area, and outer labia that are large and cover the area. If you have a "hill" configuration with a prominent hood, then the ring is not a good jewelry style for healing because it will be subject to excessive trauma (though it could be fine for later).
October 19th, 2008
This comment was posted on my Facebook wall:
Elayne is also an excellent lecturer on business and marketing trends. She was a regular lecturer for my MBA classes at the University of Phoenix and many students stated she was the most inspirational, knowledgeable and professional speaker they had ever heard (this is coming from mid-to upper level managers in corporations who are returning to school for a part-time program) and alumni often ask me about her.That's right--I remember he would bring his MBA students by my piercing studio in the French Quarter for me to lecture them. They always looked a little confused at first, but they were good audiences once I got to speaking with them.
October 17th, 2008
I just got an email with this question:
Hi. I found your site while looking for info. and thought I'd see if you could answer a question. I just had a horizontal hood piercing fall out for the second time. (second piercing) Niether time have I been able to locate my hole and put the ring back in. This time I had a horseshoe barbell and the balls were still on it when it fell out. Is it possible that this piecing grew out? Should I not go for a third attempt? I miss it already!Hi there, Have you had a piercer or even a partner examine the area to determine whether it appears the jewelry he piercing grew out? It can be hard to see for yourself. Under the circumstances, it probably did grow out. It is much less likely that the hole stretched large enough for the jewelry to slip through. Did you talk to the piercer about what had happened when you went in for the second piercing? If you can take some clear, close-up photos, I'd be happy to evaluate the area for you myself. Many women aren't built for a horizontal hood piercing. If your hood area is very vertical or recessed, it won't matter what you do--the piercing will grow out. How about a vertical piercing instead? If you're built for it, it is a fantastic piercing and they are much easier to deal with and to heal since the go with the shape of female anatomy--instead of against it as a horizontal piercing does. You can check for suitability using the q-tip test pictured on my site: http://ringsofdesire.com/q_tip.html Thanks for writing,