vaginal piercing

Question about the Nefertiti Piercing

I received this message from a woman interested in getting a dangerous genital piercing:

 

Dear Elayne,

I have been looking into a piercing for quite a while now, but it is a rather rare one. I have asked two different piercers about it and was refered to you.

 

I am told that you are one of the best and can give me the best opinion/advice. While looking at genital piercings, I saw a Nefertiti and I am now set on it. It is a combination of a christina and a vertical hood. I need to know what you think of it and who you would recommend.

 

I am 98% positive I have correct anatomy for it however they were both concerned about a flexible bar and the  fact that it is so long. My friends mom is an OR nurse and looked into the bar and said it was alright. If you could look into it I would greatly appreciate it. I have done some of my own before and could attempt it but am worried about getting it straight and the correct needle and would rather have a professional do it.

 

I know you are probably busy but this would mean a lot to me as it is my "dream" piercing. If you could either tell me what your opinion is or give me a number and times I could reach you it would be awesome. If you do not want to I understand, but would like to know that so I am not waiting for a reply. Thank you very much for your time.

 

Sincerely, Z

Hi Z.,

Thanks for your email.

 

The reason I don't cover the Nefertiti or the Isabella piercings on my webpage is because I don't do them; I consider them too risky. (I do however, have an actual clitoris piercing, and will do those on women who are anatomically suited. I say this by way of explaining that it isn't just the intensity of the piercing itself that is my concern.)

 

Over-Reacting (and Over-Cleaning)

I got this message from a gal I pierced in NY:
I just wanted to thank you for my beautiful piercing, I'm so happy with it, but I am a bit concerned that it may be getting infected. Perhaps I'm just overreacting, but its really really tender and sore, and its been about three days and I also noticed a small dot of discharge that was a light yellow today for the first time. I've been following all of your directions and keeping everything clean and sanitary, so I'm not really sure what went wrong. I'm really afraid, but if you can tell me what steps I can take steps now to possibly reverse the infection and what else I can do besides the sea salt baths and antibacterial soap, I'd really appreciate it. I read the chapter in your book about Trouble and Trouble shooting but since my symptoms weren't as severe, it didn't seem to really pertain to me. Please help if you can! Sincerely,
B.
I referred her to some relevant pages in my book (182-183 "What to Expect") because this portion explains that some secretion, redness, and tenderness are all perfectly normal in a new piercing! And they can last throughout the healing period...
I also advised her that one of the worst things she can do is over-clean. I told her to try to relax and follow the instructions I'd given her for aftercare and to review them in the book.
She wrote back:
Thanks Elayne, I guess I was just over reacting but I appreciate your help! I read all of the pages and a few other chapters in your book and everything reassured me that what I'm experiencing is normal. I think that the problem was that I was over cleaning my piercing, but now I feel much better and not so much pain and tenderness.

Question About the VCH Piercing

I just received email from a reader who had a question or two about VCH piercings:
hello angel, I have emailed you before and I have your book--great book! I have been thinking about getting a VCH in a couple of weeks. I know you said in the book that you do not have to be stimulated in the clit to have this done. My question is would it be better to have this done so that I know how big the jewelry should be? I would like go  as big as I can in size. Also, can this be done without a receiving tube (free hand)? I have checked this out with a piercer and he said that it can. I would like your comments on this please. P.S. might be fun too....................karen in pa
Hi Karen, Different piercers use different techniques. I favor the receiving tube, but if your piercer is trained and experienced at freehand technique, then that should work fine. Because the piercing passes through so little tissue, the proper measurement for the jewelry is the distance between where the piercing will be placed and the edge of your clitoral hood. A skilled piercer will be able to determine the appropriate measurement with no problem. The hood area may actually shorten or draw back when you're stimulated, because it is primarily the clitoris that enlarges during arousal. (Think of how a foreskin works on a penis.) My principle is to start at a minimum gauge (14 or 12) to preserve the maximum tissue in the area and if desired, stretch later as your anatomy allows. The jewelry should fit properly when your piercing is fresh (the way it looks in the illustration in my book) and then you can go larger after healing, if you like. Good luck and let me know how it goes. Sincerely, Elayne

VCH Jewelry Questions

I went ahead and got pierced last week (VCH), and it is doing pretty well. I just have a couple more questions for you. I am still researching stuff on the vch and there was one place that said 16 gauge is to small for a genital piercing, and that you aren't suppose to have a hoop in when you heal...  Well the ring I have is 16 gauge. Is that a problem? If so can you advise me on a gauge size and jewelry type? Thanks
I use 14 gauge as a minimum, because the 16 really is on the thin side. But, if it that is the size you have in, and the piercing is properly placed and heals well, you can easily have it stretched up later. You should wait until you have been healed for a month or two before stretching. If you begin to have healing problems such as irritation, tearing, or migration, then you should have your ring swapped out for a bar as soon as possible. Always have a professional do any jewelry change that becomes necessary during a healing period. I  use a ring only when a woman is built with a "valley"-- a recessed hood area, and outer labia that are large and cover the area. If you have a "hill" configuration with a prominent hood, then the ring is not a good jewelry style for healing because it will be subject to excessive trauma (though it could be fine for later).

Yes It Can!

Here is an email I just received:
Hello Elayne, I am thinking about getting a VHC piercing. . . I read your article about genital piercing and I wanted to thank you for making that information available to everyone. I am hoping that this piercing will help me break free from the self imposed chains on my sexuality.  I'm not sure why or how it happened but, over the years I became extremely sensitive to the derogatory things men would say about a woman's body.  Even acts of innocent school boy humor would cripple me in my mind.  I felt shameful of my less-than-perfect breasts and weird looking vagina which caused me to be very guarded during sex, even in a committed relationship. In the past I have always shielded my body from others eyes, from embarrassment. However, I am now with someone who for some reason sparked me to work on my mental and emotional problems with my sexuality.  In just a few shorts months I have improved greatly.  I am starting to realize that everyone is different looking and that no one looks like a porn start with a perfect, hairless, tan and pink vagina with hardly any labia.  I am starting to adapt a new idea of "normal" which is that there is no such thing and that if you love someone you will love everything about them, even if it's different or strange. I feel as if this piercing could be very beneficial for my process of reclaiming pride in my body and sexuality. Thank you very much for your time and once again thank you for your website.
And she's absolutely right--it CAN! I've had many clients tell me of their improved self-confidence and more enjoyable sex lives following getting a genital piercing. How awesome is that!?

Fan Mail for Two

I had made a referral to a piercer and this is feedback from the gal who got pierced.
Hi Angel, I can't thank you enough for your help finding Clay at Infinite!! I went and had it done Saturday, he was really fantastic. He performed the VCH on me, it went very well, no problem at all. The placement looks just where it should be! You were so right he is a very cool and funny guy. I actually took a friend with me and she was thinking about getting the VCH but after Clay took a look at her, he told her she was perfect for the Triangle, and so she had him do it. It went perfectly, no problem for her either! You have helped me so much finding the right piercer, I truly thank you for all of your efforts. You know without your website I would have never been able to gather all the information I needed to know about these types of piercings, I would have stopped thinking about it years ago. So you have helped me on all levels. I hope you are doing well and that the book is coming along just fine, it will help so many people like me. Take Care Angel, K.

VCH Re-Piercing

Question: Dear Angel, After having my Clitoral Hood pierced 3 times already in the last five years (VCH every time), I am now looking at the 4th time and would like your advice. My first VCH was pierced in Australia and the piercer used a ring instead of a barbell. While very stimulating for the first few weeks, the ring eventually became uncomfortable (twisting) and also started to grow out (move to the bottom end of my clitoral hood so I took it out). My second VCH was pierced in New Zealand and never really did anything for me. It was a barbell, but I felt that it was placed too high and eventually I took it out since my partner back then did not like it. My third VCH was an "engagement piercing" along with nipple piercings when I got engaged to my husband. Again a barbell and while slightly more sensation then with the second it never stimulated me as much as the first VCH had done the first few weeks. Due to an operation I had to remove the piercing last year and before I knew it the whole had grown closed. I am now looking to go for my 4th but since my experiences with the VCH so far have been only lukewarm (except for a first few great weeks with #1) i would be interested to find out if my anatomy is suitable for a Triangle or even clitoris piercing. Can you help me? Answer: Did you have a professional piercer check (by using a small gauge insertion taper first) to see if the channel had merely shrunk rather than closed? It is not uncommon that a VCH, once healed, can remain open without jewelry in place. They do tend to shrink down, but there may not be a need to re-pierce if the channel is still there. Also, depending on the amount of scar tissue that may have formed as a result of multiple piercings, it may be difficult to have another one placed in the area. I also have some questions for you: did you ever wear a ring in any of the subsequent piercings after the initial one? Maybe it was an issue of the jewelry styles rather than the piercings?
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