Pierced Cock Ring --Better in Fantasy than Reality?

I received an inquiry from a man interested in some genital piercings:

Dear Elayne,

I wondered if I might trouble you for some advice please? I have been thinking about the possibility of running a circular ring around the base of my penis through two frenums on each side, and a lorum. I havn't had these piercings done yet, but I wondered if you thought this might be possible and if so, how the best way to do this might be (i.e. get the three piercings first? How much skin they should span etc.)? Hope you might be able to advise me on this, and thank you for offering to be contacted; you're website is invaluable!

Best wishes,


My reply:

You would get the piercings separately, have them heal with individual jewelry, and then insert a ring through all three.

However, the only way that's going to work is if you don't have much of a change in the dimensions of that area when you're fully erect. The ring will need to be large enough to encompass your maximum size during erection. Would the jewelry required to fit you at that size distort the tissue when you are flaccid? Most likely so, in which case, this is not going to be a safe or comfortable arrangement.

If you think you could comfortably wear the same size ring when erect and flaccid, then you may be able to wear this combination (assuming the placement of the piercings is lined up properly--as that can also be fairly different between those two normal states.

Good luck! Let me know if you give it a try and how it works out for you.

Nipple Piercing Angles--Changes Between Erect and Non-erect States

I just got an email from a woman who was concerned about the angle of her nipple piercings:

I had a few questions with regards to nipple piercings. I have gotten my nipples pierced before, but they came out crooked. She marked and pierced them when they were erect. But the crookedness really bothered me so I took them out, and got one of them repierced about a month later.

The second time, I got a different piercer, who marked when they were flat. Now, they are even when they are flat, but when the nipple gets erect, they get crooked, which still bothers me.

I am going to get my other nipple repierced, but I was wondering, is it standard to mark and pierce when the nipples are flat or erect? Are some nipples just naturally prone to crooked piercings? Is it not possible in some cases to have the piercing sit straight at both times (when they're flat and erect) so you have to chose? In which case, if I prefer the barbell to sit straight when they're erect, should I redo the first one?

Thanks, and sorry for the multiple questions! I really love the piercings, but when they are crooked, it really also bothers me! Thanks, J.

My reply:

Eyebrow Piercing Rejection Risks

I received an email from a woman who is concerned about her eyebrow piercing:

Hi Elayne,
I got my eyebrow pierced today. After reading online about migration and rejection, I'm very worried that my piercing is certainly doomed to reject at some point. My piercer used a press-fit titanium curved barbell. He described the tissue as "moderately taught", though I can easily pinch it between my fingers (on the opposite eyebrow of course!) My question is - are most eyebrow piercings likely to reject eventually? Is there anything in addition to sea salt soaks that I can do to prevent this from happening? I've already grown so attached to my new piercing that I'm very afraid of losing it.

Thank you so much, M.

Prince Albert Problem (with photos)

I recently got a message from a man who was having some trouble with his Prince Albert piercing:

Thanks for the great site, and your book.

I got a PA 5 weeks ago, ¾” inch  captive ball stainless steal ring, 8g.  I am uncircumcised.  Placement etc. was fine, but it soon became clear that the ring was a wee bit too small in diameter and causing pain during erections.  On the advice of my piercer I waited a few weeks to have it changed, he felt it might mostly be initial swelling and he was reluctant to swap out jewelry too soon.  I eventually, at 3 weeks in, had the ring changed to a 7/8” which seems to be the perfect size. After-care throughout has been washing with mild soap once/day, and 2 or 3 sea-salt soaks per day. I also put a small dab of emu oil on after the soaks.

Problem: about a week ago I developed a bump along the edge of the  piercing hole.  It is not warm or red, looks like a small blister, no hint of puss or other fluids.  It is about 1mm thick, and goes around about ¼ of the circumference of the piercing. No signs of infection etc., but this "blister" is very sensitive, feels like being poked with a needle every time anything touches it.  Otherwise the PA is pain-free, but that one tiny bump is certainly hurting!

Possible complications is that I’ve had the flu for a few days, so my immune system is no doubt busy.  I’m also a cyclist and have been biking to work (the bus got too expensive).  While I did take two weeks off the bike after getting pierced and felt no pain or discomfort while cycling, I may have added insult to injury.

What do you think this painful little bugger is?  Other than the warm soaks and staying off the bike, any advice for getting rid of it, or at least making it less painful?

Thanks for your help!  I’d like Mr. Happy to stop being Mr. Ouchy!

My reply:

Insertion Tapers and Stimulating VCH Jewelry

I reveived a message recently:

Dear Elayne,
I got my VCH done last June by Kellan at infinite in Philly and I've been very pleased with it. He was a great and professional piercer, he calmed me down and talked me through it. I got a curved barbell but I've decided I want try out some different jewelry. Do you have any ideas for styles to increase stimulation?

Also, next month I have to have a test and my doctor said I have to take the jewelry out. How long can I leave it out for? I can't get back to Infinite any time soon. Thank you so much! A.

My reply:

Bisected Clitoris (Following Piercing Problem)

I received a very interesting query from a woman who had her clitoris pierced many years prior and ended up with it bifurcated following an accident:

Hi Elayne,
In 94' Barb Pierce from Creative Tattoo in Ann Arbor pierced my clit and it healed very well. I had an accident a year later and it left my piercing slightly torn. I left it to heal and it began to regect. I then decided to bisect it my self with a scalpel, thinking that once the rejection started i wouldnt need to keep the halves separated for them to heal individually. I was correct. They healed and expanded a bit, became more sensitive.

So for the past 17 years I have never met another woman who has bisected her clit, so therefore I have also never heard of any woman piercing both halves. Each side is the size of a Qtip. I would like to know if you have ever seen/heard of this. I am interested in it, but I dont want to be a test pilot nor do I have a desire to have 4 clits! Lol!

I have looked online to educate myself, but found little to nothing on the bisecting or the piercing. I have spoken with piercers far and near, and No one has info. Some are willing to do the piercing, but i first need info on the piercing itself. There has to be some woman out there likeminded as I, who has bisected her clit and then pierced both halves! I need to be educated on this before I schedule this piercing. If anyone would know, I feel it would be you Elayne.
Thank you for you time and I do so look forward to your response.
Blessing, love, & light!

My reply:

Double Apadravya Piercing Possible? (With Photos)

I received a message and a few photos from a gentleman who was interested in a double apadravya (he already had one):

Apadravya plus dot marked for 2nd ApadravyaI have read a lot about your expertise in the field of piercings. Attached is pic of my current apadravya with marks of where I would like to have a second apadravya. When I first talked to my piercer, she said that with that placement it might make it hard to heal as the top is in the corona and the bottom is in the shaft. Thus creating a movement difference. I saw pictures of a guy that got off centered RPAs and PAs for the purpose of eventually wearing them as an apadravya X. I was wondering if I could do something similar to get a PA/RPA in those spots for healing and stretching separately? Then when after healed from the final stretch put in a barbell. I don't think it would work well to do a shaft apadravya as it would be really close to my frenums.
Thanks for any advice or information you could provide.

My reply:

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