self-esteem

VCH Questions and Body Image Issues

Below is some correspondence I had with a woman who did book in to have me do her VCH piercing and a pair of outer labia piercings:

Elayne,

I have a question about the VCH.  I pretty much need to use a vibrator on my clit if I want to orgasm (masturbation or during intercourse), and, while I've been interested in the VCH, I'm concerned that the jewelry and the vibrator will make unpleasant rattling noises when they come in contact.  Are there ways around this (either with changes to the vibrator material—currently plastic—or ways of moving the jewelry around during sexual activity)? S.


Hi S.,
It is true that contact with a vibrator against body jewelry will result in a sound, not everyone considers it unpleasant. ; ) You could try non-metallic jewelry (after healing), or, like some women, you may find that the additional direct clitoral stimulation from the jewelry makes the vibrator superfluous. Certainly nobody can make any promises, but if you're interested in the VCH, and anatomically suited to it, then I think it is worth a try. There are a lot of variables involved including unique human anatomy, body jewelry size, style, and material, personal preferences for stimulation, different sexual activities.... So it is the kind of thing you'd need to try out to see how it works for you.
Elayne

More Great Feedback

I received a very touching message from a reader whose life was obviously impacted in a positive way from reading my book:

Elayne,

I would like to say that you are truly an inspiration. After buying your book 2 years ago, I realized that I have always felt my body was lacking something... To put it simply, ownership. But also, decoration (because thats always fun)!

Body modification has helped me reclaim my body after sexual assault and depression. I spent most of my childhood and teenage years suffering from anxiety and low self-esteem, and after years of thinking I was less than beautiful, I discovered your book.

I had always fawned over body modification and piercings, but I never thought it was right for me. Then, I read your book. Your book opened up a world that would change me for the better; spiritually, physically, sexually and mentally. Ive slowly begun my journey of changing my body to match my soul. And thanks to the knowledge and expertise of your book, I can do it safely and properly. I dont know where I'd be without it- certainly not as strong and self-confident as I am now! Haha.

 

And this message from a piercer who found my book useful, in other ways:

Subject: Piercing Bible


Hi Elayne,

I've been piercing for 12 years and I recently received a copy of your book as a present and I must thank YOU!

Despite being in the industry for a good few years I still learned a lot and a lot of what I knew has been confirmed.

What a great resource, especially for anxious clients.

Thanks again.

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